Books Review : Why Men Love Bithes

Sherry Argov’s Why Men Love Bitches delivers a unique perspective as to why men are attracted to strong woman who stands up for herself.

There are two kind of woman in this book, “nice girl” and “Bitches”. Nice girl is the woman who will over compensate, giving everything to man she barely knows, without him having to invest much in the relationship. She’s the woman who gives blindly because she wants so much for her attentions to be recipocated. In the other hand, bitch means Babe In Total Control of Herself. Dont say B-I-T-C-H like a bad thing because she is the strong woman who can stand on her own two feet and keep her dignity well.

Sherry Argov’s deliver 100 attraction Principle. Here are some :

 Attraction Principle #1 : Anything a person chases in life runs away

Especially when it comes to dealing with a man with one caveat : if you chase him in a black nightie, first he’ll have a sex with you... and then he’ll run away. The fact she’s willing to overcompensate to virtual stranger immediatly suggest one of two things. He’ll either assume she is desperate or he’ll assume she is willing to sleep with all men right away. Or both. What gets lost in his appretiation for her extra effort. Once a man begins to lose respect to a woman because she is willing to subtly devalue herself, he will also lose the desire to get closer to her. Nightie or no nightie. A dream girl,on the other hand wont kill herself to impress anyone.

Attraction Principle #2 : The woman who have climbing the walls for them arent always expectional. Often, they are the one who dont appear to care that much.

This isnt about how to play a game or how to manipulate someone. This is about whether youre genuinely needy, or whether youre genuinely show him that you’ll be an equal partner in the relationship. Its about whether youre capable of holding your own in the relationship.

Nice girl need to know what a bitch understand. Overcompensating or being to eager to please will lessen  a man’s respect; it will give the kiss of death to his attraction and it will put a time limit on the relationship.

Most men dont perseive a woman who jumps throght hoops as someone who offers a mental challenge. Intelligent women make the mistake of assuming that  if they hold their higher degree, they can hold their own in political debate, and they have a good understanding of mid-caps, they offer a man stimulation during dinner. But the mental challenge has little to do with conversation.

In general, the mental challenge has to do with whether you expect to be respected. It has to do with how you relate to him. It has to do with whether he knows that you arent afraid to be without him.

Attraction Principle #3 : He’ll never respect you as being able to hold your own unless you can stand on your own two feet financially

When you have the clear title on a vehicle, youre the legal owner and you have certificate of ownership, to it. The certificate of ownership in some states means youve been fired. When you have certificate, there no lien-holders. There are no monies owed. There are no debts unpaid. This means you own it free and clear, so what you do with that vehicle is entirely up to you. Likewise, when a woman keeps the certificate over herself, she gains leverage in the relationship.

This is what many mother tell their daughter : if a woman gives up her independence and becomes financially dependent on a man, she’ll have far fewer choices in life. She’ll end up at someone else’s back and call.

Attraction Principle #4 : Be an independent thinker at all times, ignor anyone who attempts to define you in a limiting way.

Whether its your taste in clothing, your needs in a relationship, or what you do for a living – dont let anyone else be at the controls. Define yourself. The minute you become on independent thinker,two things will happen. First, positive people and things will be drawn to you like a magnet. Second, it will serve as deterent for negative people will try to distract you from achieving your goals. There will always be people who will be there to plant negative seeds in your garden, if you make yourself available for that.

Standing up for yourself doesnt always involve verbal confrontation. Somtimes, its about not wasting energy on people who are negative.

KEEP YOUR STANDARD HIGH!